tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post5147764104718489286..comments2023-10-25T08:16:38.782-07:00Comments on Of Horses and Men: What a weekend!sidetrackedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16646438998655943806noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-67471789740415864542009-04-13T21:05:00.000-07:002009-04-13T21:05:00.000-07:00And Joe's. I'm agreeing with Laura, but add Joe's...And Joe's. I'm agreeing with Laura, but add Joe's to that list. Every Joe I know is a jerk. Just ask my ex-husband. He'll confirm it and his name is Joe.<br /><br />Hon, I have a clue as to how guys think. I was raised by my father and brothers. There wasn't a female role-model in my life from the ages of 5 to 15. And then I spent a lot of time with military guys around as a Marine Corps wife (avoid them too- you can reference the above Joe for confirmation on that too). From there, I worked in a male dominated industry, so I've had a lot of time to talk, listen and observe how guys think. And when I've been in doubt, I've asked any of those guys for their opinion.<br /><br />I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to just be yourself and be alone for a while. Everyone has to learn how to be alone. Plus guys dig independence. The good ones anyways. <br /><br />I speak with the voice of experience here. I've been there and done that. I'd like to save you some headaches and heartaches. After all, I've been in your shoes.<br /><br />Now, I think pony therapy is the best idea! Lots and lots of time with the ponies and you'll feel better. You can cry on them, laugh and them and they never judge you. They'll just accept you and love you just the way you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-47712245361302866112009-04-13T17:41:00.000-07:002009-04-13T17:41:00.000-07:00Dang, I had no idea you were a pistol packin' mama...Dang, I had no idea you were a pistol packin' mama! Chill out. Hang with the people who truly enjoy spending time with you. I keep telling you to stop trying so hard. You shouldn't have to. You're beautiful, smart and funny. The losers are blocking your light so the winners can't see you.Leah Fryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18158981037468411293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-18916935003027536162009-04-13T17:26:00.000-07:002009-04-13T17:26:00.000-07:00Cool gun pics!! I'm not a huge gun fan, but somet...Cool gun pics!! I'm not a huge gun fan, but sometimes it is kinda fun to know how to shoot one. I learned how to shoot a machine gun in the military. That second gun looks like an M-16 - I'm not sure if I want to know how you guys had access to one of those!!! Cops around here sure dont!!! lol<br /><br />Too bad about the guy troubles - I have no good advice to give... I think Steph's advice is good though - wash your hands of another G and move on. Those guys have no clue on what they are missing out on! Maybe you should also steer clear of guys whose names start with "G"!!! ;-pLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01736592362765508427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-81853767623235612062009-04-13T17:23:00.000-07:002009-04-13T17:23:00.000-07:00Thanks Oregonsunshine, This may be what's going on...Thanks Oregonsunshine, This may be what's going on with him. I really appreciate your advice, I just miss my friend. I was the one he used to go to when his ex was breathing down his neck, and I would do the same with "G" and his crap. You may be right that I'm coming off as pushy and nagging, but we as women think totally different than guys do. WHo knows. I've been good all day. I went to the barn after work and had a good ride on Possum and just stayed there and hung out till dark. I'm just checking my online stuf now and then taking a shower and going to bed. I have a training all day tomorrow a ways away so that should take up some mental space and time fo rme, and then I have a date to ride Aragon that afternoon.<br /><br />Just hard sometimes, as I'm sure you know. I feel liek I have so much to give someone and feel totally unappreciated. Just having friends, guys or otherwise soudns like a good idea to me. Thanks again for cthe sound advice. My blog is the place where I vent and get all this guy crap out and out of my head of the most part.sidetrackedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646438998655943806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-26410016873878709952009-04-13T12:22:00.000-07:002009-04-13T12:22:00.000-07:00Oh Dear! You'll probably hate me for this, but I'm...Oh Dear! You'll probably hate me for this, but I'm going to give it to you straight.<BR/><BR/>I've been reading your blog for the past several months and when it comes to the guy thing, I see myself a few years ago.<BR/><BR/>When it comes to you and Greg, you're both coming out of serious relationships and you're both pretty messed up. That AT LEAST A YEAR rule needs to apply to you too.<BR/><BR/>Guys coming out of a relationship seem to have pretty tenuous friendships with other women at best. They've got so much on their plates and their thoughts and emotions are just everywhere across the board. Most likely, any relationship Greg starts during this time of his life isn't likely to last.<BR/><BR/>And calling and texting all the time isn't going to help matters. Not getting a reply to a phone call or text should tell you something. It shouldn't be telling you to call and text that much more. It does make you come off sounding as needy and clingy, two things guys DON'T like. And truly something Greg doesn't need right now as he's still got his ex-wife to deal with still. If you're coming off as pushy and demanding to him now, do you think that's going to make you that much more attractive to him? After all, I'm sure that's what his ex is doing. And she's got priority as the mother of his son. Why'd he want to deal with two women in his life like that? Especially if he isn't sleeping with either one of them? (Guys think like that)<BR/><BR/>What else could be going on in Greg's life that might make it so he can't text or take a phone call right away? Could he be having on-going arguments with his ex? Could he just be so frustrated and angry that he isn't up to talking to anyone? Could it be that he's just trying to figure his shit out while everyone else in the world clamors for his attention? Give the guy a break!<BR/><BR/>Do you think that backing off and being independent for a while might show him what a cool chick you really are?<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you're really using Greg as an emotional replacement for "G" in your life right now too. Maybe you need more to occupy your thoughts than just guys?<BR/><BR/>Give Greg some space. He'll appreciate it and is more likely to come back 'round.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-70768288482623135202009-04-13T11:58:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:58:00.000-07:00He's 28 by the way.He's 28 by the way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-7469035424242146822009-04-13T11:55:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:55:00.000-07:00As you should and it never hurts to have at the ve...As you should and it never hurts to have at the very least another friend! <BR/><BR/>I can email you some info. if you can give me your address don't want to post specifics on here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-63221889176794719582009-04-13T11:46:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:46:00.000-07:00That's so funny, Portland is only about 40 min fro...That's so funny, Portland is only about 40 min from me so it wouldn't be a big deal to swing by somewhere. I'm just trying to keep all my options open.....sidetrackedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646438998655943806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-63278702912411157202009-04-13T11:43:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:43:00.000-07:00Hey I hear ya! Really nice guy... He likes dogs ha...Hey I hear ya! Really nice guy... He likes dogs has a great one from the ARL - knows some about horses, good job, athletic, wicked smart. Sorry I get this (match-making) impulse from my sister! You could do a drive by ever in the Portland area? I could find a pic of him I think!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-11565909557435773752009-04-13T11:30:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:30:00.000-07:00He he he, hook a sister up. I'm just looking for ...He he he, hook a sister up. I'm just looking for nice guys to hang out with, nothing really serious unless that's the path it takes on it's own.sidetrackedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646438998655943806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-82405647329794560862009-04-13T11:20:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:20:00.000-07:00He sounds like a messed up jerk too me. Hey very ...He sounds like a messed up jerk too me. Hey very nice single guy here where I work ;)<BR/><BR/>Portland - I'm just saying!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-28963779505260378772009-04-13T11:18:00.000-07:002009-04-13T11:18:00.000-07:00Oh Man I look forward to youy comments Stephanie. ...Oh Man I look forward to youy comments Stephanie. You always know how to keep me grounded and o nthe right path. Would absolutely love to hop on a plane and fly away for a few days and play horses with someone else and have some adult beverages, I can dream can't I. I'm sticking to my guns, literally hahaha. I just need to back out now and let it go. We're obviously on different planes and not going to see eye to eye. He just doesn't get it and may not be able to right now. On a good note, I went home fo rlunch and to let the dogs out and found a cute little birds nest on the ground. I'm going to take it as a sign of good times to come.sidetrackedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646438998655943806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4952050352237571556.post-19605123229107393822009-04-13T10:58:00.000-07:002009-04-13T10:58:00.000-07:00Hey at least you won't have to worry about picking...Hey at least you won't have to worry about picking up any internet stalkers after the machine gun pictures!! You look like one tough girl - who want to mess the girl who might have access to a machine gun? Umm nobody. LMOA! You looked great with the guns!<BR/><BR/>Sorry about the guy stuff! Gosh it seems like you can't catch a break. If I were you I'd be done with him too - like you said just wash your hands of him and move on. He missed that train and it doesn't stop there anymore anyway! Any attempts at repairing the friendship by you would just be viewed by him as "womanly advances" so screw it. Just keep it business with the house and all - and don't even throw him a bone. <BR/><BR/>Wish you could fly out here and help me at my horse show this weekend! We could sit and guy bash over some wine and horses. Not that mine's been rotten lately - he's just provided me with an endless supply of crap to bitch about over the past 15 years.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00029307154132762913noreply@blogger.com