Well I'm having a really hard time lately and I'm looking for some support from my blogger friends. I just found out that "G" is officially fucking someone and is very likely in a new relationship. I don't know why, but this bothers me terribly and sent me into a full fit of tears and "why me's" I know this should not bother me, but it really does. I know he and I need to move on, but damnit I feel jipped. He is finally sober and going to counseling and doing all of these healthy things that I have tried to get him to do for years to no avail and now he's all better and gets to share the benefits with some other chick. I am just so mad and hurt and confused. My roomie and Greg have been awesome in trying to lift my spirits and keep me going. But I still can't help but have a pitty party on the fact that no one is going to ever like me or want to be with me. I think I seriously need to talk with Pony Girl and get some wisdom from her. She is super good looking, independent and SINGLE!
I try and look at all the positives in my life like the fact that my animals are everything to me. I live with a great friend. I am great friends with Greg and who knows what may happen in the future between us. I have a good job. I'm not too bad financially meaning in debt. But man this is just so hard. I have made the decision that when I get my insurance card that I'm going to go back to counseling because I totally feel myself back sliding into another depression. I'm finding it harder and harder to get out of bed and motivate myself. I have been foricing myself to go to the barn and ride like tonight because I know that always makes me feel better.
Maybe I'm jealous of the fact that he is happy and I'm not. Or maybe it's the fact that I can never have him again, even in the future because in my mind he is damaged goods. I need to pick myself up and move on, so much easier said than done. I'm trying to heal and move on from 5 years with someone. But I know this hasbeen coming for a while and I have been trying to ignore it. I've been using food and gainina weight which is a tell tale sign of depression. I've been nasty and picking fights with people, even Greg. Why is it that we want to hurt the people who are closest to us when we're hurting? I need to fall back on my friends and family again to help me out of this slump. I need to know that life will go on. I need to realize in myself that I am not trash or ugly or fat and I will find someone when I least expect it.
I'm finding solace in my horse and dogs right now. Possum has been awesome lately and he definately knows me the best. He has been there the longest of the males in my life besides my dad. He will always love me no matter what. The dogs have also been super clingy knowing that their mom is sad and down. I have spring to look forward to and if I can afford it I really want to show and be with my barn friends. I need to slow everything down right now and not go a million miles an hour spinning my wheels and going nowhere. I need to stop being such a tough girl and accept the help and support from my friends because they really care about me. I guess I scared my roomie yesterday when I called her aftering finding out about "G" and his sexual activities and she was so concerned that she called Greg and they talked about me for 45 minutes.
I guess It's also a case of the pot calling the kettle black. But I've had control of what I do and I don't have control over "G". Such a very unhealthy thing it is to want to control someone. SO anyways I rode tonight and had a good time and visited with friends. The dogs were also happy to run around and play with their doggie friends. I'm home now and just made myself some spaghetti and have vowed not to eat too much. My roomie should be home soon and greg will be calling me when his son goes to bed. I need to get my head out of my ass and see what I do have instead of what I don't. Well thanks for reading anyways, it just helps me to write about this, it's a little therapeutic. But please if you feel the inclination to comment I couls use it, even if it's positive criticism, or just a hang in there it is well appreciated.
I may check back in later tonight depending on how I feel. Thanks everyone.